Death and birth encountered.
It was my birthday, and I was woken up by what I thought was a loving call from a friend. It was actually some of the worse and saddest conversations I ever had.
My best friend lost her brother. He was young, full of dreams. On his nightstand was his wedding list. In the bank, savings from years and years that would be used to open his own business. He was the kindest person I know. He had the soul of a child, braveness of a warier, and the knowledge of a senior.
It is sad…
I know we are living in a pandemic, and many borders are still close. Some of my friends were unable to take that great job abroad because of it. But the restrictions won’t last forever. Once vaccination campaigns accomplish their goals, the world will come back to normal — so we hope.
That is why I say now is the time to prepare to start your post-graduation in another country. As I will write about, it isn’t an easy journey, and the process may take a long time. So shouldn’t we plan and organize everything in advance?
Based on my…
The Struggles of Getting Used to My Homeland Customes
After 15 months in Canada, it was time to come back to my home country, Brazil.
Everyone advised me that it would be very challenging, I didn’t believe it. All I could think before arriving here was the love of my family and friend, who I missed like crazy.
But the fact is, I am struggling to get used to old habits. Living in a first-world country can change you so much. Everyday things, which you grew up doing or seeing, are just so strange and different now.
Here are the…
Are you sick of toxic positivity? Join the club, my friend. I swear to God that if someone says any of those phrases to me one more time, I will lose it.
“The pandemic is a blessing” or “The pandemic is the best time to reinvent yourself. Learn a new skill, get fit, change your life! You can do this".
Oh, please, take a walk (and do not come back).
Living a pandemic has been hard for every single person on this planet. You either struggle to find a job or keep the one you have. The mental exhaustion is…
I know the deal. As a perfectionist, you spend most of your time doing everything correctly. You try to be as productive as you can. You may even skip social events or leisure activities to have everything done on time. Maybe you procrastinate once every couple of weeks, but not without chastising yourself later.
Are you also continually thinking about your unfinished duties, upcoming tasks, and deadlines? Are you overthinking a task so much that you can’t do it properly? Or maybe you can’t do anything at all?
I feel you, my friend, and I want to help. In this…
As a south American woman, I am passionate. Even though I have always lied to myself, saying, “love is overestimated,” I have always found myself jumping from one relationship to another, seeking love (and failing miserably).
I moved to Canada to finish my Ph.D., and that was my only goal. People back home kept saying, “You will find your prince charming up North and never come back.” As a nerd, I always answered that I wouldn’t have time to meet someone or dedicate myself to a relationship. …
Seven days ago I came back to Brazil, which I love with all my heart. Even though my homeland has so much to offer, I admit that I miss many things about living in Canada.
Have you ever watched a movie and the character said, “Let’s give up everything and move to Canada”? Well, that is what I have been willing for the past week.
As you may know, being a Ph.D. student itself is not an easy task. But if you are an international post-graduate student, you have even more on your plate.
Beyond all the academic stress, add the sadness of being away from home and everything/ everyone you love. There is also the struggle to communicate in a second language and learn the rules and the culture of a different country. Not enough? Add a pandemic to your list.
As a Brazilian Ph.D. candidate, I spent 15 months in Canada to perform my research. Many things scared me before I left my…
The loving words from an angry heart
My parents were happily married for 25 years. My father’s business bankrupted, and for a couple of years, they continued living like nothing ever happened. But then, the arguments started.
My dad was always complaining about my mom’s job and how little money she made. She felt disrespected and treated him with irony and anger. A lot of yelling happened for some years until everything became silent.
To make a long story short, they lived in the same house for five years without talking to each other. My mom slept on the couch…
If you are a jealous person, or if you are the one trying to deal with someone’s jealousy, you have to understand something:
Jealousy is just like another feeling, such as sleep and hunger.
Can you control the time you start feeling hungry? No! The same happens with jealousy. You can’t control when and with whom this is going to happen.
No matter how much you trust your partner. Your brain doesn’t care if you are fulfilled in that relationship. …
PhD candidate. Half of me is science, brain, articles, and reason. The other half is art, heart, therapy, and emotion.